Archive for the ‘Friendship’ Category

Overlooking Your Friend’s Faults

Jun 21

by Victoria Robinson

Girlfriends, we all know that a mirror can either be our friend or enemy. If we are feeling good about the way we look then the mirror is our friend and if we do not like the way we look we tend to avoid looking in a mirror. However, even if we avoid gazing at our own faults, it is easy to walk around noticing the faults of others. Seeing a friend who looks bad in an ugly outfit is not nearly as painful as seeing ourself looking just as bad. Spiritually speaking, we do the same thing. The faults of others are so evident to us while we are blind to our own.

The surest way to know we have mastered overlooking our friend’s faults is to examine our first response. There is nothing wrong with us noticing sin in others and yet how we react is very telling of our own hearts. Is it, “Oh my!” or is it “I must pray for them.” Are we motivated by our love for them or just being critical? Another important response is, “Do I have that same sin in my heart?” The truth is, sometimes the reason we are critical of others is because we are plagued with the very same faults.

Overlooking a friend’s faults does not mean we ignore the problem. The Word of God clearly tells us that we are help our friends when they are caught in sin. However, and here’s the painful part, we are to examine our own hearts and remove any sin we have. Then we will be able to see clearly to help our friend.

Dearest girlfriends, let us love and be patient with our friends when it comes to their faults while we examine our own hearts.

Disregarding another person’s faults preserves love; telling about them separates close friends. ~ Proverbs 17:9 NLT
 
Be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. ~ Ephesians 4:2 CEV
 
You must make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. ~ Colossians 3:13 NLT
 
“And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying, ‘Friend, let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log from your own eye; then perhaps you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye. ~ Luke 6:41-42 NLT 
 
Let everyone be sure that he is doing his very best, for then he will have the personal satisfaction of work well done and won’t need to compare himself with someone else. Each of us must bear some faults and burdens of his own. For none of us is perfect! ~ Galatians 6:4-5 TLB
 
Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love makes up for many of your faults. ~ 1 Peter 4:8 TLB

Friendship at Midnight

Mar 18

by Victoria Robinson

You know you have a true friendship when you can call your friend at midnight. My dearest friend Ann is someone who not only knows she can call late, but actually does! We can talk and laugh at twelve o’clock midnight just as easily as twelve o’clock noon. The truth is every one of us has a “midnight friend”—it is our heavenly Father.

True intimacy in friendship happens in the wee hours of the night. Jesus told the story of a man who went to his friend at midnight to obtain some refreshment of bread for an unexpected guest. I actually have a true friend who supplies me with the refreshment of homemade bread. Iwona makes the most heavenly bread. She starts by grinding her own flour and uses the best ingredients. When we have a bread baking day the rewards are wonderful. I also have the added blessing of her four year-old daughter learning to bake with us. Something that is dear to me, as I have wonderful memories of my precious grandmother teaching me to make bread at an early age.

The friendship Iwona and I share consist of more than just baking bread. She is a true friend who I could turn to in any crisis and I have complete confidence she would be there for me. As wonderful and comforting as that knowledge is, I have an even closer friend who I have total reliance on. Turns out the friend in Jesus’ story was not like my bread baking friend. This friend only relented to help because his friend was persistent and bold when requesting bread.

While the concept of being persistent and bold when we ask of our heavenly Father is an important aspect of this story, the concept of a “midnight friend” is a sweet aspect as well. Your heavenly Father has made it clear that He wants to bestow good gifts to us when we ask.

Dearest girlfriends, let us boldy and persistently ask our heavenly Father to bestow good gifts to us, after all, He is our “midnight friend”!

Then he said to them, “Suppose one of you has a friend, and he goes to him at midnight and says, ‘Friend, lend me three loaves of bread, because a friend of mine on a journey has come to me, and I have nothing to set before him.’ “Then the one inside answers, ‘Don’t bother me. The door is already locked, and my children are with me in bed. I can’t get up and give you anything.’ I tell you, though he will not get up and give him the bread because he is his friend, yet because of the man’s boldness he will get up and give him as much as he needs. “So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened. “Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion?  If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!” ~ Luke 11:5-13 NIV 

There are “friends” who pretend to be friends, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. ~ Proverbs 18:24 TLB