Posts Tagged ‘finding fault’

Overlooking Your Friend’s Faults

Jun 21

by Victoria Robinson

Girlfriends, we all know that a mirror can either be our friend or enemy. If we are feeling good about the way we look then the mirror is our friend and if we do not like the way we look we tend to avoid looking in a mirror. However, even if we avoid gazing at our own faults, it is easy to walk around noticing the faults of others. Seeing a friend who looks bad in an ugly outfit is not nearly as painful as seeing ourself looking just as bad. Spiritually speaking, we do the same thing. The faults of others are so evident to us while we are blind to our own.

The surest way to know we have mastered overlooking our friend’s faults is to examine our first response. There is nothing wrong with us noticing sin in others and yet how we react is very telling of our own hearts. Is it, “Oh my!” or is it “I must pray for them.” Are we motivated by our love for them or just being critical? Another important response is, “Do I have that same sin in my heart?” The truth is, sometimes the reason we are critical of others is because we are plagued with the very same faults.

Overlooking a friend’s faults does not mean we ignore the problem. The Word of God clearly tells us that we are help our friends when they are caught in sin. However, and here’s the painful part, we are to examine our own hearts and remove any sin we have. Then we will be able to see clearly to help our friend.

Dearest girlfriends, let us love and be patient with our friends when it comes to their faults while we examine our own hearts.

Disregarding another person’s faults preserves love; telling about them separates close friends. ~ Proverbs 17:9 NLT
 
Be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. ~ Ephesians 4:2 CEV
 
You must make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. ~ Colossians 3:13 NLT
 
“And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying, ‘Friend, let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log from your own eye; then perhaps you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye. ~ Luke 6:41-42 NLT 
 
Let everyone be sure that he is doing his very best, for then he will have the personal satisfaction of work well done and won’t need to compare himself with someone else. Each of us must bear some faults and burdens of his own. For none of us is perfect! ~ Galatians 6:4-5 TLB
 
Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love makes up for many of your faults. ~ 1 Peter 4:8 TLB

The Eye of a Critic

Jan 08

by Victoria Robinson

I have a very beautiful and stylish niece who has a critical eye when it comes to color. She can match colors perfectly when not having a sample with her. She is a great asset to have along when shopping. (She has great tastes as well!) Having a critical eye can be great. On the other hand, it can also be detrimental. Jesus had some people following Him who had a critical eye. No girlfriends, they were not helping Him match His robe to His sandals. They were instead looking to catch Him doing something wrong. For most of His life, Jesus was being watched like a hawk by critical people. Not a very comfortable position to be in was it?

One solution to cure a critical eye is to gouge it out. OUCH! Sorry girlfriends, Jesus did say if our eye causes us to sin, we should gouge it out. But hang on, there is another remedy I think you will prefer. An easier, and much less painful remedy to cure a critical eye is love. If we truly love others we will hope for the best in them, not looking for their faults.

Another important aspect of eliminating a critical eye is prayer. Not only for ourselves, but the ones we are critical of. Examine your heart and ask yourself if you spend more time looking for faults in others or praying for them. If we truly have love in our heart, we will be eager to intercede to our heavenly Father on their behalf.

If we come to the realization of how we wish to be treated, it becomes easier to stop having a critical eye towards those around us. Every one of us has plenty of faults and have no room to be critical of others. Dearest girlfriends, I pray we would be more concerned about our own faults rather than those around us.

Keeping a close watch on him, they sent spies, who pretended to be honest. They hoped to catch Jesus in something he said so that they might hand him over to the power and authority of the governor. So the spies questioned him: “Teacher, we know that you speak and teach what is right, and that you do not show partiality but teach the way of God in accordance with the truth. Is it right for us to pay taxes to Caesar or not?” He saw through their duplicity and said to them, “Show me a denarius. Whose portrait and inscription are on it?” “Caesar’s,” they replied. He said to them, “Then give to Caesar what is Caesar’s, and to God what is God’s.” They were unable to trap him in what he had said there in public. And astonished by his answer, they became silent. ~ Luke 20:20-26 NIV
 
For the whole Law can be summed up in this one command: “Love others as you love yourself.” But if instead of showing love among yourselves you are always critical and catty, watch out! Beware of ruining each other. ~ TLBGalatians 5:14-15
 
Enemies spend the whole day finding fault with me … ~ Psalm 56:5 CEV
 
And if your eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into the fire of hell. ~ Matthew 18:9 NIV
 
Love is kind. … it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. ~  NIV1 Corinthians 13:4-7 
 
Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful. ~ Colossians 4:2 NIV
 
Treat others just as you want to be treated. ~ Luke 6:31 CEV
 
… The way you treat others is the way you will be treated. ~ Luke 6:38 CEV