Posts Tagged ‘gentleness’

The Strength of Gentleness

Feb 16

by Victoria Robinson

The strength of gentleness sounds like an oxymoron doesn’t it? Yet this truth found in the Word of God is amazing. As ladies, we should always be concerned about coming across to others as gentle and feminine. This concept is not so difficult for me. As a dear friend has said to me, “You put the “F” in feminine.” I must admit I am a girly girl. Always have been—always will be. This is just naturally who I am. Even so, being truly gentle requires more than just an outward behavior, it requires a heart of gentleness. Here is where I can get in trouble. All the gentleness displayed only outwardly, not from a pure heart has no strength. But gentleness that  is born of a godly heart has great strength. Such is the case of the admonition written by the apostle Peter. He said, “Be beautiful in your heart by being gentle and quiet.” In this same passage we find that by doing this we display the powerful truth of our heavenly Father that can even lead others to salvation.

Dearest girlfriends, I pray we would utilize the strength of gentle godly behavior in our lives.

Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and a gentle tongue can break a bone. ~ Proverbs 25:15 NIV
 
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. ~ Proverbs 15:1 NIV
 
If you are a wife, you must put your husband first. Even if he opposes our message, you will win him over by what you do. No one else will have to say anything to him, because he will see how you honor God and live a pure life. Don’t depend on things like fancy hairdos or gold jewelry or expensive clothes to make you look beautiful. Be beautiful in your heart by being gentle and quiet. This kind of beauty will last, and God considers it very special. ~ 1 Peter 3:1-4 CEV

Showing Contempt for the Riches of His Kindness

Jan 22

by Victoria Robinson

One of the attributes of your heavenly Father is kindness. Kindness is such a beautiful word. The Greek word for kindness is chrestotes which means: gentleness, moral goodness, integrity, and benignity. The Word of God describes kindness as one of the riches of God. So how is it we can show contempt for one of the great attributes of our heavenly Father? In the book of Romans it states, “… do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, tolerance and patience, not realizing that God’s kindness leads you toward repentance?” We do this by passing judgement on others, thus condemning ourselves. This judgement harkens to the words written by Luke, the physician, “You can see the speck in your friend’s eye. But you don’t notice the log in your own eye.”

Dearest girlfriends, let us not show contempt for the rich kindness of our heavenly father by judging others instead of examining our own hearts.

You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things. Now we know that God’s judgment against those who do such things is based on truth. So when you, a mere man, pass judgment on them and yet do the same things, do you think you will escape God’s judgment? Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, tolerance and patience, not realizing that God’s kindness leads you toward repentance? ~ Romans 2:1-4 NIV 
 
You can see the speck in your friend’s eye. But you don’t notice the log in your own eye. How can you say, “My friend, let me take the speck out of your eye,” when you don’t see the log in your own eye? You show-offs! First, get the log out of your own eye. Then you can see how to take the speck out of your friend’s eye. ~ Luke 6:41-42 CEV
 
So why do you condemn another Christian? Why do you look down on another Christian? Remember, each of us will stand personally before the judgment seat of God. For the Scriptures say, “ ‘As surely as I live,’ says the Lord, ‘every knee will bow to me and every tongue will confess allegiance to God.’ ”Yes, each of us will have to give a personal account to God. So don’t condemn each other anymore. Decide instead to live in such a way that you will not put an obstacle in another Christian’s path. ~ Romans 14:10-13 NLT
 
Consider therefore the kindness and sternness of God: sternness to those who fell, but kindness to you, provided that you continue in his kindness. Otherwise, you also will be cut off. ~ Romans 11:22 NIV

Taking a Spill in “High Heels”

Jan 18

by Victoria Robinson

High heels are so much fun to wear. They are so feminine and can really elongate your legs and make you feel pretty. Sometimes all it takes is a cute high heel to lift a girl’s spirits up. On the other hand, some “high heels” can cause us to take quite a spill. This would include the “high heels” of pride and haughtiness.

Just because high heels can cause you to trip and fall, does not mean you can never wear them. You just have to wear the right ones. My adorable husband, Rick, knows that a sure way to make me smile is to compliment my shoes by saying, “Cute shoes!” What “cute shoes” does the Word of God encourage us to wear? Try a pair of “humble high heels”. Being a lady who practices humility will ensure you do not trip and fall.

Dearest girlfriends, let us kick off the “high heels” of pride and haughtiness in our life and slip on the “high heels” of humility.

Pride ends in a fall, while humility brings honor. ~ Proverbs 29:23 TLB
 
Pride goes before destruction, and haughtiness before a fall. ~ Proverbs 16:18 NLT
 
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. ~ Philippians 2:3 NIV
 
Humility and the fear of the LORD bring wealth and honor and life. ~ Proverbs 22:4 NIV
 
Before his downfall a man’s heart is proud, but humility comes before honor. ~ Proverbs 18:12 NIV 
 
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. ~ Proverbs 11:2 NIV
 
Since God chose you to be the holy people whom he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. ~ Colossians 3:12 NLT

Are You a Tutti Frutti Lady?

Jan 14

by Victoria Robinson

When we think of a fruity lady, we usually think of the ladies who are “interesting” and most people wish to avoid. Yet there was a very famous “fruity” lady who most people would have  never avoided. Her name was Carmen Miranda and she cornered the market as being known as a fruity lady. She is best known for her role in the 1943 Busby Berkeley movie, The Gang’s All Here, in which she sang “The Lady in the Tutti Frutti Hat” while adorned with a seemingly gargantuan piece of fruit-laden headgear. The spunky Miranda with her distinctive fruity hats was very popular in the movies from the 1930’s to the 1950’s. Even if you have never seen the movie, you are most certainly familiar with the Chiquita Banana advertisements with a woman in a over-the-top banana headdress.

The Word of God is full of “fruity” ladies. Lydia, Phoebe, Priscilla, Mary,  Tryphena, Tryphosa, and Persis, to mention a few. The apostle Paul commended all these ladies in his letters and one could conclude they were all showing the fruit of righteousness and fruit of the Spirit. To be a “tutti frutti” lady does not require a fruit filled hat, but does require a fruit of the Spirit filled heart. The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

Dearest girlfriends, let us become “tutti frutti” ladies filled with the fruit of the Spirit.

… We sat down and began to speak to the women who had gathered there. One of those listening was a woman named Lydia, a dealer in purple cloth from the city of Thyatira, who was a worshiper of God. The Lord opened her heart to respond to Paul’s message. When she and the members of her household were baptized, she invited us to her home. “If you consider me a believer in the Lord,” she said, “come and stay at my house.” And she persuaded us. ~ Acts 16:13-15 NIV
 
I commend to you our sister Phoebe, a servant of the church in Cenchrea. I ask you to receive her in the Lord in a way worthy of the saints and to give her any help she may need from you, for she has been a great help to many people, including me. ~ Romans 16:1-2 NIV
  
Greet Priscilla … my fellow workers in Christ Jesus. They risked their lives for me. Not only I but all the churches of the Gentiles are grateful to them. … Greet Mary, who worked very hard for you. … Greet Tryphena and Tryphosa, those women who work hard in the Lord. Greet my dear friend Persis, another woman who has worked very hard in the Lord. ~ Romans 16:3-4,6,12 NIV
 
By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? Likewise every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Thus, by their fruit you will recognize them. ~ Matthew 7:16-20 NIV
 
Produce fruit in keeping with repentance. And do not begin to say to yourselves, ‘We have Abraham as our father.’ For I tell you that out of these stones God can raise up children for Abraham. The ax is already at the root of the trees, and every tree that does not produce good fruit will be cut down and thrown into the fire.” ~ Luke 3:8-9 NIV
 
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. … Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. ~ Galatians 5:22-23,25 NIV
 
For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) and find out what pleases the Lord. Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. ~ Ephesians 5:8-11 NIV
 
And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ—to the glory and praise of God. ~ Philippians 1:9-11 NIV
 
For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you and asking God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding. And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and joyfully giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in the kingdom of light. ~ Colossians 1:9-12 NIV
 
But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. ~ James 3:17 NIV

A Genteel Lady

Nov 14

by Victoria Robinson

The origins of the word genteel are traced to France in 1599. Genteel means: nice, graceful, and pleasing. It is a reborrowing of the word that had early come into English as gentle. Girlfriends, genteel is an accurate word to describe your heavenly Father. He is a loving and gentle Father. Let us seek to imitate Him by going about our lives presenting gentleness to those around us.

Gentleness should never be taken as a trait of someone who is spineless. The opposite is actually true. Proverbs tells us that  a gentle tongue can break a bone. Note how Jesus spoke with the woman who came to get water at the well in the book of John. He actually had more spine than most of us. He tells her He knows that she has had five husbands and that she is now living with a man without being married. Yet He did all this with gentleness and love. Not only did this lead to her salvation, but also many others in the town after she testified to them about her encounter with Jesus. Girlfriends, I do not know about you, but if someone exposed my sin to me, I am not about to run telling everyone. This however is exactly what this woman did. The gentleness Jesus used was not spineless, but extremely effective.

Dearest girlfriends, I pray we would develop a genteel heart and treat everyone with the gentleness of our heavenly Father.

Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. ~ Philippians 4:5 NIV
  
Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and a gentle tongue can break a bone. ~ Proverbs 25:15 NIV
  
Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.” “Sir,” the woman said, “you have nothing to draw with and the well is deep. Where can you get this living water? … Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again,  but whoever drinks the water I give him will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water so that I won’t get thirsty and have to keep coming here to draw water.” He told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.” “I have no husband,” she replied. Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband.  The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.” … The woman said, “I know that Messiah” (called Christ) “is coming. When he comes, he will explain everything to us.” Then Jesus declared, “I who speak to you am he.” … Many of the Samaritans from that town believed in him because of the woman’s testimony, “He told me everything I ever did.” So when the Samaritans came to him, they urged him to stay with them, and he stayed two days. And because of his words many more became believers. They said to the woman, “We no longer believe just because of what you said; now we have heard for ourselves, and we know that this man really is the Savior of the world.” ~ John 4:10-11,13-18,25-26,39-42 NIV
 
…  Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, … ~ 1 Peter 3:15 NIV
 
Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. ~ Galatians 6:1 NIV

 

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. ~ Proverbs 15:1 NIV
 
For the kingdom of God is not a matter of talk but of power. What do you prefer? Shall I come to you with a whip, or in love and with a gentle spirit? ~ 1 Corinthians 4:20-21 NIV