Posts Tagged ‘self control’

Are You in Someone’s Way?

Feb 25

by Victoria Robinson

Does your lifestyle put you in the way of someone else? Do your choices cause others to stumble? Our Lord and Savior told his good friend Peter that he was a stumbling block. The apostle Paul made it a point to avoid being a stumbling block to those in his life. He even went so far as to work night and day so that he would not be a financial burden to other’s.

One way we can cause others to stumble is to exercise our freedom in a way that is hurtful to those around us. For instance, there are those who do not struggle with overeating. Yet they should be careful how they eat when around a sister who lacks self-control. Serving a luscious chocolate ganache cheesecake might be an unwise choice. Instead they should consider the needs of their precious sister. Would it not be wiser to eat the cheesecake when they are in a different setting. The cheesecake is not necessarily evil, but the enemy can use it as a stumbling block to someone who has a weakness. Out of love, we should always be looking to the needs of others.

Dearest girlfriends, let us ask our heavenly Father to reveal to us if we are causing others to stumble.

Jesus turned and said to Peter, “Get behind me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; you do not have in mind the things of God, but the things of men.” ~ Matthew 16:23 NIV
Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother’s way. ~ Romans 14:13 NIV
Be careful, however, that the exercise of your freedom does not become a stumbling block to the weak. ~ 1 Corinthians 8:9 NIV
We put no stumbling block in anyone’s path, so that our ministry will not be discredited. ~ 2 Corinthians 6:3 NIV
… We were not idle when we were with you, nor did we eat anyone’s food without paying for it. On the contrary, we worked night and day, laboring and toiling so that we would not be a burden to any of you. We did this, not because we do not have the right to such help, but in order to make ourselves a model for you to follow. ~ 2 Thessalonians 3:7-9 NIV
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. ~ Philippians 2:3-4 NIV

The Foolishness of Presumption

Feb 18

by Victoria Robinson

Making presumptions can be foolish. Like seeing the warning lights blinking, the safety crossing gates down over the road, and a train coming down the railroad track with the whistle blaring, yet presuming you can race to make it across the tracks before you and your car are crushed into oblivion. This is pretty much what the Israelites did when they presumed upon the mercy of God when they raced into the promised land against the warning given by Moses. As they soon found out, one should not make presumptions. They were fiercely attacked and beat down. All the presumptions we may make are not as obvious.

Some foolish presumptions people may have …

  • I am a good person—I will go to heaven
For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast. ~ Ephesians 2:8-9 NIV
  • I have a husband—I cannot lose him

Each of the younger women must be sensible and kind, as well as a good homemaker, who puts her own husband first. Then no one can say insulting things about God’s message. ~ Titus 2:5 CEV

The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. ~ 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 NIV

  • I have great strength—I cannot fail

Some trust in chariots and some in horses, but we trust in the name of the LORD our God. They are brought to their knees and fall, but we rise up and stand firm. ~ Psalm 20:7-8 NIV

  • I have wealth—I will never be in need

Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain, but to put their hope in God, who richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment. ~ 1 Timothy 6:17 NIV

Cast but a glance at riches, and they are gone, for they will surely sprout wings and fly off to the sky like an eagle. ~ Proverbs 23:5 NIV

  • I have sinned—God will have mercy on me 

Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction … ~ Galatians 6:7-8 NIV

What about you girlfriends, are you guilty of making foolish presumptions? If so, recognize it is wise to take heed of the Lord’s truths. Dearest girlfriends, let us ask our heavenly Father to forgive us in any areas we have made foolish presumptions.

Nevertheless, in their presumption they went up toward the high hill country, though neither Moses nor the ark of the LORD’s covenant moved from the camp. Then the Amalekites and Canaanites who lived in that hill country came down and attacked them and beat them down all the way to Hormah. ~ Numbers 14:44-45 NIV

Are You a Tutti Frutti Lady?

Jan 14

by Victoria Robinson

When we think of a fruity lady, we usually think of the ladies who are “interesting” and most people wish to avoid. Yet there was a very famous “fruity” lady who most people would have  never avoided. Her name was Carmen Miranda and she cornered the market as being known as a fruity lady. She is best known for her role in the 1943 Busby Berkeley movie, The Gang’s All Here, in which she sang “The Lady in the Tutti Frutti Hat” while adorned with a seemingly gargantuan piece of fruit-laden headgear. The spunky Miranda with her distinctive fruity hats was very popular in the movies from the 1930’s to the 1950’s. Even if you have never seen the movie, you are most certainly familiar with the Chiquita Banana advertisements with a woman in a over-the-top banana headdress.

The Word of God is full of “fruity” ladies. Lydia, Phoebe, Priscilla, Mary,  Tryphena, Tryphosa, and Persis, to mention a few. The apostle Paul commended all these ladies in his letters and one could conclude they were all showing the fruit of righteousness and fruit of the Spirit. To be a “tutti frutti” lady does not require a fruit filled hat, but does require a fruit of the Spirit filled heart. The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

Dearest girlfriends, let us become “tutti frutti” ladies filled with the fruit of the Spirit.

… We sat down and began to speak to the women who had gathered there. One of those listening was a woman named Lydia, a dealer in purple cloth from the city of Thyatira, who was a worshiper of God. The Lord opened her heart to respond to Paul’s message. When she and the members of her household were baptized, she invited us to her home. “If you consider me a believer in the Lord,” she said, “come and stay at my house.” And she persuaded us. ~ Acts 16:13-15 NIV
I commend to you our sister Phoebe, a servant of the church in Cenchrea. I ask you to receive her in the Lord in a way worthy of the saints and to give her any help she may need from you, for she has been a great help to many people, including me. ~ Romans 16:1-2 NIV
Greet Priscilla … my fellow workers in Christ Jesus. They risked their lives for me. Not only I but all the churches of the Gentiles are grateful to them. … Greet Mary, who worked very hard for you. … Greet Tryphena and Tryphosa, those women who work hard in the Lord. Greet my dear friend Persis, another woman who has worked very hard in the Lord. ~ Romans 16:3-4,6,12 NIV
By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? Likewise every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Thus, by their fruit you will recognize them. ~ Matthew 7:16-20 NIV
Produce fruit in keeping with repentance. And do not begin to say to yourselves, ‘We have Abraham as our father.’ For I tell you that out of these stones God can raise up children for Abraham. The ax is already at the root of the trees, and every tree that does not produce good fruit will be cut down and thrown into the fire.” ~ Luke 3:8-9 NIV
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. … Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. ~ Galatians 5:22-23,25 NIV
For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) and find out what pleases the Lord. Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. ~ Ephesians 5:8-11 NIV
And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ—to the glory and praise of God. ~ Philippians 1:9-11 NIV
For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you and asking God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding. And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and joyfully giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in the kingdom of light. ~ Colossians 1:9-12 NIV
But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. ~ James 3:17 NIV